Saturday, June 1, 2013

Reader's question - do you regret your R2I decision?

There was a question from one of the readers - "do you regret your R2I decision, now having made the R2I?". Thought this will be a very relevant question for many of the folks thinking about R2I. So, some thoughts on this ...

One of my friend's said while I was in US - "if you are 95% sure that you want to be back in India, don't come back"! That's very true - you need to be 99% sure that you want to be here to make the R2I. Reasons being several - there are somethings that you can't simply get here and those are out of your control. Examples being, nice parks, footpaths, nice roads where you don't need to worry about commute, discipline and order in things etc. There is no way these things can change in the near term, read, in your lifetime :-).

From my personal point of view, do I regret the R2I decision? Absolutely not, from my point of view. However, your 'mileage' may vary, as I mention below.

However, as I mentioned in my initial blog entries, R2I is a very personal decision. I was 100% sure that this is something I want to do and something that would be good for the kids. In that light, I enjoy things which were not available earlier like frequent visits to parents, kids mingling with cousins and family, Indian food, "feel of at home" etc. Fortunately, kids have adjusted to the Indian climate and don't fall sick as often. We do take precautions like avoiding road side food, not drinking water outside except bottled water etc. Also, the US style malls are abundant in Bangalore there days, which give access to latest movies, bowling, pizza, berger etc - to keep the kids connected to US.

However, same thing may not be true for lots of families or even for your family members. Dealing with the chaos here may seem like a headache for lots of people and knowing the problems will persist, may become a ongoing pain.

In summary, one person's enjoyment of R2I may not be true for another person - it all depends on your perspective and what you want out of R2I. If staying in India is the strong reason, it is very likely that you will enjoy the R2I and make it work for you.

So, no regrets? No - there are but more of irritants and I will cover those in my next post.

If you are still in-doubt, take this assessment I posted a while back and access yourself to see what factors drive your R2I decision. These are the factors that drive your R2I stay here in India as well once you are here...
http://r2idiaries.blogspot.in/2011/12/r2i-or-nr2i-not-to-r2i-dilemma-take.htm


Completed second year of R2I ...

Here we go - completed second year of R2I and onto 3rd year !!!! :-)

Big thanks to all the readers - this blog has crossed the 20K page visits mark and very happy to see that this has been useful to many people. Hope this continues. Please drop a comment if you want to hear about something specific on R2I in the blog...

I had reflected about R2I experience after the first year, here:
http://r2idiaries.blogspot.in/2012/06/reflecting-year-of-r2i.html

Not surprisingly, nothing much had changed - good things have remained and have improved. Kids know lot more about family, have gotten used to much more Indian food and have started eating stomach full in ceremonies like Weddings etc. They had a blast during the 2 months of summer vacation - visiting places, playing with cousins etc.

Bad and ugly things have remained the same - roads continue to be bad, there is much more uncontrolled construction, thanks to rain gods - it has been raining good. Otherwise, water situation would have been terrible. Unfortunately, these things change over time and are under government control. Only major change I have seen is the Outer Ring Road, which now flys all the way to Hebbal, without much obstruction of service roads. However, whenever we get on the road, it feels like we are driving on the war zone - random traffic, pot holes etc never stop!